The Art of Saying No (Daily Artist #4)

Updated: Apr 5

Written by Joshua D. Harris

It's Monday. My week has just started. My cell phone is already buzzing off the hook. 9 missed text messages and 3 missed calls, not to mention my social media inboxes are full to the brim with red circles alerting me of unanswered messages. In an era of instant messaging and instant gratification I'm finding it hard to detach and be less connected. To be fair I'm a visual media content creator I have to know what people are thinking and watching at all times, but how can I be creative and effective if I don't learn how to make time for myself and my own life. These are questions that all of us artist have asked countless times. My goal this week is to teach all my fellow artist how to say No to distractions and yes to yourself. If that sounds like something you are interested in, follow me as I give you three tips to becoming a master of saying no.

  1. Use Valid Reasoning

The number one reason why most people struggle with saying no is they see it as turning down an opportunity. If I don't say yes now then I might never have the opportunity to say yes again. I'm hear to tell you that that line of reasoning is a myth. The truth is life is long. Not long as in unlimited but long as in constant opportunities to make decisions. For example my first three years of High School I was way to shy to ever ask a cute girl out on a date, but eventually I grew some balls and by my senior year when another opportunity presented itself I took a leap and said yes. Don't be afraid to say no if the reasons for saying yes don't align with your principles in life. My principles in life are simple: 1. live everyday like it's your last 2. treat others how you wish to be treated and 3. family always comes first. Because I have a simple set of rules to govern my life by it's easy for me to say no when I'm given a set of circumstances that contradicts those. For example I know every week their is a certain amount of time that I will dedicate to my family, which means there are certain hours every week where I will not work out of respect for that principle which is essentially a promise to myself.

2. You Des